Workshops

1. Setting Limits without Guilt
Have you ever given in to your children just to get them to be quiet or over reacted to your child’s behavior, regretting it? When we manage our guilt by either fighting or giving in to children we end up teaching the very behaviors we are trying to eliminate.
There is a better way! Discover new ways to manage effectively manage your guilt and teach children the behaviors you want. Learn how to shift from fear to love based discipline that helps you to stay clam, keep connected and increase your child’s motivation to cooperative.

2. “No I Won’t and You Can’t Make Me” Helping Children shift from Defiance to Compliance
Are you tired of fighting with your children over everything from going to bed to eating their peas? Discover what’s behind power struggles and strategies that help children to choose to comply without defiance. You will learn how to prevent power struggles and steps for helping children to build free will without stepping over your boundaries.

3. From Crazy to Calm!: Brain Smart Strategies that Build Self-control!
Recent brain research indicates that all higher level thinking shuts down when the faced with stress, threats or fear. When in lower levels of the brain we unconsciously react, defend or attack rather than respond to life’s events that allow us to choose, resolve and problem solve. We are currently living in a culture of anxiety. Children are the population experiencing the most stress. This workshop is designed help participants understand the underpinnings of brain function and self control. Participants will learn effective strategies to help calm themselves and their so that they can access their brilliance to help teach children to self-calm.

4. “She Hit Me!”: Empowering Children Who Are Bullied.
A victim in any aggressive act feels powerless. This workshop will help participants understand the dynamics of the bully/victim relationship and the skills for teaching children who feel powerless to have a voice that is heard. Participants will learn the steps for helping children go back in time to handle conflict in a more helpful way.

5. Transforming Aggression: Helping Those Who Hurt!
Aggression is often the most challenging behavior for adults to manage in classrooms and homes. Participants will understand how children become aggressive and the 7 beliefs that help adults effectively mange it. Participants will understand the 3 types of aggression, and strategies for defusing fights that help motivate the aggressor to be helpful rather than hurtful.

6. “See Me. Hear Me. Notice Me.”: Wiring the Brain to Problem Solve!
Children and adults can only access the highest centers (pre-frontal lobes) of their brains to problem solve in conflict. Participants will learn the skill of Noticing which allows one to be conscious of thoughts, feelings, and actions priming the brain to respond from a place of solution rather than reacting like an emotional nut!

7. “They Never Listen to Me.”: Saying No and Being Heard
Are you tired of repeating yourself, what seems like, a hundred times before your child will listen? Discover some of the ineffective patterns of adult speech that interfere with a child’s willingness to listen. Participants will learn effective strategies for expressing themselves in a way that children listen.

8. Connections That Count: Using I Love You Rituals
Attachment refers to the bond developed between caretaker and child. Children with a healthy attachment are able to stay focused and accept disappointment. The willingness to cooperate is defined by the relationship we have with others. Participants will learn the difference between attention and connection along with strategies for building the bonds that increase motivation and focused attention in children.

9. “That’s it You’re Grounded”: Consequences That Work!
“That’s it you are grounded for life!” Have you ever found yourself imposing a consequence on your child that you ended up regretting? Do you find yourself giving in or using the same consequence repeatedly and wonder if it is really teaching your child/teen? Do you feel guilty or resentful about the consequences you have imposed? In this workshop you will gain a new understanding of the effective and ineffective intentions and use of consequences. Discover how to effectively set consequences that teach children to take responsibility without blaming you.

10. “Help My Teen is an Alien.”: Understanding and Managing the Ups & Downs of Adolescence.
This workshop is designed for parents or adults connected with teens. It is designed to help parents understand and cope with the often “alien” and disconnected experience of adolescence. Understand adolescent developmental issues related to social emotional growth. Learn strategies for supporting and reconnecting with teens. Discover how conflict gets started: What’s behind all the arguments and how to prevent them. Learn strategies for negotiating agreements that their teen will respect and honor.

11: “Help My Teen is an Alien”: Building a Relationship That Motivates Cooperation
Adolescence is a time where adults & teens often feel disconnected. This workshop is designed to help adults and teens reconnect. Willingness comes from feeling connected, supported and understood. Adults will learn strategies for rebuilding the relationship that motivates cooperation, respect and willingness in teens.

12: “You’re Not the Boss of Me!”: Creating Agreements That Teens Respect!
Adolescence is a time of transformation and teens often do not follow the routine that once was so easy. Teens are discovering that they are in charge of their choices and often defy your commands, demands. Learn strategies for setting boundaries and creating agreements that teens will take responsibility for and respect.

Courses are designed for adults committed to getting  more in-depth training in Conscious Discipline^®.

1. Conscious Discipline^® 1 for Parents
Conscious Discipline® (CD), developed by Dr. Becky Bailey, is an in depth emotional intelligence program consisting of Brain Smart™ strategies designed to help parents learn to respond rather than react to family conflict and life's events.  Through responding we are able to turn conflict into cooperative teaching opportunities.  The basic premise for this discipline approach is that how we discipline ourselves, is how we discipline children.  If we are not able to say  "no" to ourselves than saying  "no" to children will be confusing and difficult. We must learn be in control of ourselves first and children second.  CD is designed to help you move from the (unconscious) lower levels of your brain to the  (conscious) higher levels of your brain so that you can be composed in a moment of conflict focusing and modeling the behaviors you want your children to learn.  You will learn strategies for helping children move to their conscious brains so they can learn.  This dynamic class, facilitated by certified instructors, has beginner & advanced classes for parents that are held in 4-6 week sessions.  One night per week for 2-2.5 hours.

Session 1: Participants will be introduced to the theory of "conscious" discipline. They will understand the difference between positive and negative discipline and the effects they have on our ability to handle life's events. Participants will learn behaviors that are normal in the development of emotional intelligence which will help them to "unhook" from the behaviors that drive them crazy and help them to be more effective in managing their child's behaviors.

Session 2: Participants will learn the Conscious Discipline brain model. they will earn how the brain develops self control and effective strategies for managing their own stress so that they can be in a position to help children to internalize self-control.

Session 3: Participants will learn the power of perception and the skill of Composure which says. "No one can make me angry without my permission". Participants will learn what is behind anger and strategies for actively calming themselves so that they can activate the highest centers of their brain to help children in their fusses and fits.

Session 4: Participants will learn structures and strategies for teaching anger management to their children. They will practice the three skills of discipline for moving children up from the lowest centers to the highest centers of their brain so your children can hear your guidance in helping them learn new ways to problem solve.

Session 5: Participants will learn the skill of Encouragement which says, "We are all in this together. They will learn the concepts behind unity and the difference between attention and connection. Participants will learn strategies for reconnecting with their children that help build the willingness to cooperate.

Session 6: Participants will learn structures of Encouragement that will build a healthy self-esteem and strategies of effective praise that help to develop impulse control. Parents will learn new ways to implement jobs to children that are meaningful and motivate children to contribute.

2. Conscious Discipline^® 2 for Parents
Is the advanced class that explores the remaining 5 components; Assertiveness, Choices, Positive Intent, Empathy & Consequences, of Dr. Becky Bailey's Conscious Discipline® Program. Participant will discover the belief systems they have behind the powers that drive them to discipline themselves and others the way they do. They will learn new strategies for empowering themselves to see conflict as an opportunity and thus learn skills that help teach their children to effectively respond rather than react to life's events. It is a 12 hour course consisting of 5-6 weekly-monthly sessions.

Session 1: This session will focus on the skill of Assertiveness: saying "no and being heard; setting limits.

Session 2: will focus on the skill of Choices: Building the willingness to cooperate in children.

Session 3: will focus on the skill of Positive Intent: Transforming Aggression in children.

Session 4: This session will focus on the skill of Empathy: helping children accept disappointment.

Session 5: This session will focus on the skill of Consequences: Teaching children to take responsibility for their actions.

3. 10 Steps to Positive Discipline
Ten Steps to Positive Discipline is an introductory course to Conscious Discipline®, an emotional intelligence program, developed by renowned author and international speaker, Dr. Becky Bailey. It is designed to help adults working with children begin to effectively mange behaviors without relying on coersion, manipulation and to "get" children to cooperate. Participants will enhance their relationship by building connection, understand what's behind their child's misbehavior, and learn strategies for self control while managing family conflict peacefully. It is a 10 hour course consisting of 2 hour sessions one night per week for 5 weeks.

4. Teaming with Teens
The Teaming With Teens course is designed to help parents and/or teens to develop strategies for enhancing their relationships. Participants will understand the adolescent brain and it's social-emotional development, along with learning strategies for marinating composure and effectively managing conflict. Participants will learn how to make choices that build cooperation, create mutual agreements, be assertive and set boundaries that help to create relationships that are connected and respectful.

Session 1: Learn the ups and downs of the developing adolescent and his/her brain. Learn strategies for managing stress and helping you and your teen to respond from the highest centers of the brain for problem solving.

Session 2: Learn strategies for maintaining composure in the moment of conflict.

Session 3: Willingness does not come without connection. Learn how to reconnect the relationship that helps build cooperation.

Session 4: Setting Boundaries effectively and creating mutual agreements that are respectful.

Session 5: Providing consequences that teach teens to take responsibility for their choices.

a) Teaming with Teens Library Series: Help My Teen is an Alien
This is the first in a series of three 2 hour workshops for parents of teens sponsored by the Martin County Library System. It is designed to help parents and teens examine the social/emotional ups and downs of adolescence. Participants will learn how the brain responds to conflict and strategies for accessing the highest centers of their brains which will allow them to respond rather than react to life’s events.

b) Teaming with Teens Library Series: Reconnecting with Your Teen
This is second in a series of 2 hour workshops for parents of teens sponsored by the Martin County Library System. It is designed to help parents and teens reconnect their relationship. Participants will learn strategies for building trust, understanding and willingness to respect boundaries.

c) Teaming with Teens: Creating Cooperation with Your Teen
This is third in a series of 2 hour workshops for parents of teens sponsored by the Martin County Library System. It is designed to help parents and teens to feel heard, create mutual agreements, and set boundaries that are respected.